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<p><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhYcAdiWCI/AAAAAAAABJM/E9hm8CBe5AA/s1600/drunk+path.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhYcAdiWCI/AAAAAAAABJM/E9hm8CBe5AA/s400/drunk+path.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501244183016527906" /></a><span style="font-family:verdana;">OK, so it took me four years. Four long and sometimes miserable years but I <em>think</em> I <strong>finally</strong> get it. I finally understand. Understand that I might have actually made a good decision for once in my life. The day I decided to <em>jump</em> on the wagon.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:verdana;">The day finally arrived that I came to my senses and decided to give it all up. Life as I knew it, this <em>life of hell</em> was officially gonna be over. No doubt it&#8217;s been a long road since then, an extremely long road and what makes it even worse is the fact that I&#8217;ve basically just begun my journey. My <em>Journey To Sobriety.</em></span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhaYncvh1I/AAAAAAAABJU/HgfEs6qSbmA/s1600/death+valley+1.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 213px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhaYncvh1I/AAAAAAAABJU/HgfEs6qSbmA/s320/death+valley+1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501246323785959250" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;"><em></em></span><br />
<span style="font-family:verdana;">Filled with all kinds of peaks and valleys. Mountains that would seemingly make <em>Everest </em>envious and lows that would make <em>Death Valley</em> a <em>cool</em> place to hang out in the summer. No doubt a Roller Coaster that isn&#8217;t meant for the weak and timid. Heck no, only the truly hard core need to buy a ticket for this ride. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Unfortunatley the <em>highs</em> of the mountains weren&#8217;t actually a good thing. They were neverending uphill stretches where each <em>switchback</em> would fool you into thinkin&#8217; that you were <em>almost there</em>, only to find out that just around the bend was<em> another</em> hill twice as steep as the last.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Next thing you know, you&#8217;ve reached a <em>plateau</em> of sorts, seemingly allowing you to <em>relax</em> a bit, perhaps even let your guard down, take it easy for awhile. Short lived, this rest stop turns out to be filled with angst and indecision, not a place you really wanna hang out and so off your go again, off to trudge more unexplored highways and byways.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhcE1F3gdI/AAAAAAAABJc/660jHyeO39w/s1600/highway_to_hell_400.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 265px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhcE1F3gdI/AAAAAAAABJc/660jHyeO39w/s400/highway_to_hell_400.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501248182873981394" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Both of which can be dangerous. Whether under your feet or in your mind, these <em>Highways To Hell</em> can surely eat you alive, if you let them. And more often than not, the choice isn&#8217;t yours. Staying <em>busy</em> mentally <em>can</em> be but isn&#8217;t always a good thing.</span></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Sometimes your mind can start racing so fast that there&#8217;s no way possible to slow it down. All the <em>woulda coulda shouldas</em> start flyin&#8217; through your brain, an endless stream of confusion, hitting you like a machine gone. No way to stop it, you can only sit there and take the <em>self imposed</em> barrage until the bullets run out. For now anyway.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhlvyF5I9I/AAAAAAAABKs/bZbYSjoE_b4/s1600/roller+coaster+from+he%3Bll+1.bmp"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 228px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhlvyF5I9I/AAAAAAAABKs/bZbYSjoE_b4/s400/roller+coaster+from+he%3Bll+1.bmp" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501258816407806930" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">I say <em>for now</em> because you never have any idea <em>when</em> and for <em>how long</em> this will go on. What you <strong>do</strong> know is it&#8217;s gonna be a Roller Coaster ride from hell and all you can do is hang on, ride it out, hands tucked under your thighs, doin&#8217; your best to stop shakin&#8217; and just praying for it to be over. And not a minute too soon.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Eventually it does end but you have no idea for how long. Your first inclination is to do <strong>anything </strong>possible to <em>stop</em> your mind. To put an end to all this <em>stinkin&#8217; thinkin&#8217;.</em> To turn it off, to shut it down. At least for a while. Just long enough to stop this <em>train</em> from fallin&#8217; off the tracks. But you know how it is. As soon as you tell yourself <strong>not</strong> to think about something, you&#8217;re instantly thinking about it&#8230;.and nothing else.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Even though you continue to say <strong>don&#8217;t</strong>, you do. <em>&#8220;Get the &#8216;F&#8217; outta my head!&#8221;</em> you hear yourself scream&#8230;. but to no avail. It&#8217;s still there, like that relentless caged hamster on the wheel, no way to make it stop. Eventually it does though, when you finally pass out from sheer exhaustion.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhc-HBw_tI/AAAAAAAABJk/zWHbYwAyhoo/s1600/drunk+7.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 200px; height: 253px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhc-HBw_tI/AAAAAAAABJk/zWHbYwAyhoo/s320/drunk+7.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501249166941159122" /></a></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Of course the opposite of <em>this</em> stressful stretch are the days and nights where time seemingly stands still. Forward one second, backwards two seconds, forward two seconds, backwards three seconds and so on and so on it goes. Like time has basically stopped and all you&#8217;re doing is drowning in a <em>sea of failure</em> and <em>regret</em>. Yeah, it&#8217;s a wonderful feeling. <strong>NOT!</strong></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">All you can do is just pray for the day to end so that you can finally go to sleep. Counting every second until darkness takes over the sky and hoping you&#8217;ll be tired enough to where your mind will finally just give up and you can fall asleep.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Only problem is, your brain <em>never</em> got the <em>Memo </em>and so it continues to twist and turn inside your head with no signs whatsoever of slowing down, let alone stopping. How you ended up with a <em>brain battery</em> stronger than the Energizer Bunny&#8217;s is a mystery to you but regardless, there&#8217;s no signs of sleep in your immediate future and so you just lay there and suffer through the <em>Civilian Ridealong.</em></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">That&#8217;s when it dawns on you and you have to ask yourself how in the hell you ever got to sleep before, back in the good ol&#8217; days? Back when you were drinkin&#8217;. I mean, with all this crap runnin&#8217; through your mind, night after night, how did you ever manage to <em>shut it off</em> long enough to <strong>finally</strong> pass out?</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhdtHMYp5I/AAAAAAAABJs/dnWDJrKJFWQ/s1600/drunk-header-toilet.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 250px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhdtHMYp5I/AAAAAAAABJs/dnWDJrKJFWQ/s400/drunk-header-toilet.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501249974439552914" /></a></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Oh, that&#8217;s right. That&#8217;s <strong>exactly</strong> what I did. I partied &#8217;till I eventually passed out. THAT&#8217;S how I was able to sleep. Well, if you could call it sleep anyway. Basically it was more like random hours of various stages of incoherency throughout the night, ending in the horrific <em>buzzing</em> of the alarm clock saying <em>&#8220;Wake up, time to get ready for work!&#8221;</em></span><br />
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Head pounding, your first thought is what can I use for an excuse to get outta work <strong>this </strong>time? But then it dawns on you. If you take a day off work, that would mean less pay and even worse, you&#8217;d probably have to work a half day on Saturday which would totally kill your Friday night fun. Besides that, the fact that you couldn&#8217;t sleep in on Saturday morning would also be a drag. </span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">So get out of bed you must&#8230;and you do. After a couple of <em>snooze buttons</em> of course. By this time you&#8217;re runnin&#8217; late, scramblin&#8217; to get out the door. As you run down the stairs to get to your car, the dizzy <em>haze</em> kinda kicks in and for a second you have to ask yourself where you parked. </span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFheEAHxknI/AAAAAAAABJ0/uh5yBgSyb4o/s1600/drunk2.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 400px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFheEAHxknI/AAAAAAAABJ0/uh5yBgSyb4o/s400/drunk2.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501250367678157426" /></a></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Locating your car<em>(luckily),</em> you&#8217;re on your way to work and at this point, you&#8217;re glad you got outta bed and didn&#8217;t bother makin&#8217; up some lie to get out of having to show up. That way you still have an excuse for a time when you REALLY need to get out of goin&#8217; to work. </span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">After all, you&#8217;re not feelin&#8217; near as hungover as you thought you would and you know for sure there&#8217;s gonna be another time when you really feel like crap and HAVE to take the day off. I mean c&#8217;mon, it&#8217;s inevitable, right? Right.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Weird thing is, for some reason you seemed to have felt much better when you first woke up but apparently all this <em>movement</em> you&#8217;ve been doin&#8217; all morning has kinda <em>stirred</em> things up again. And not in a good way.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhe3IsiK5I/AAAAAAAABJ8/0_lRPQijsUQ/s1600/drunk-asshole.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhe3IsiK5I/AAAAAAAABJ8/0_lRPQijsUQ/s400/drunk-asshole.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501251246153149330" /></a></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">It&#8217;s not like you <em>recaught</em> that same wonderful buzz you had last night. <strong>Oh</strong> <strong>Hell</strong> <strong>No!</strong> This is like the <em>Evil Twin</em> of last nights festivities. Last night was all fun, full of joy and laughter<em> (at least from what you think you can remember)</em> but today is full of nausea, throbbin&#8217; headache and the feelin&#8217; that something in your stomach wants to see the light of day all over again.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">This is <strong>not</strong> good at all&#8230;.and it&#8217;s only gonna get worse. Worse because you just realized that it&#8217;s only 8:30 and you still have to get through the entire day. At this point all you can do is concentrate on your lunch break. Maybe a half hour of laying down will save you. </span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhfkbqwTMI/AAAAAAAABKE/xW5HDwTQQn4/s1600/drunk_soberin.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 243px; height: 320px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhfkbqwTMI/AAAAAAAABKE/xW5HDwTQQn4/s320/drunk_soberin.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501252024340073666" /></a></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Well, you can hope so anyway. At least it&#8217;s something else to concentrate on besides the bongos banging around inside your head. Why on earth didn&#8217;t you bring a bucket &#8216;o aspirin to work with you? Oh yeah, you didn&#8217;t feel like <em>this</em> when you first woke up. Hmmm, maybe you <strong>were</strong> still buzzin&#8217; after all.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">One thing&#8217;s for sure, it&#8217;s gonna be a very long day ahead. Why do you continue to do this to yourself? When will you ever learn? Apparently not anytime soon, that&#8217;s for sure because just about the time you leave work for the day, you&#8217;re already scowering your wallet to see if you have enough money to stop by the Beach Market on the way home to grab a <em>sixer&#8217;</em>.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhgKeapQTI/AAAAAAAABKM/ok3b5PVt5EQ/s1600/DrunkenSex.png"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 320px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhgKeapQTI/AAAAAAAABKM/ok3b5PVt5EQ/s400/DrunkenSex.png" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501252677912838450" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">All the bad feelings that you began your day with, just a distant memory at this point. You were <strong>sure</strong> that you wouldn&#8217;t be drinking again for quite some time and yet, here you are mapping out your <em>stops </em>on the drive home. Oh, they better have your <em>brand</em> on the shelf because if for some reason they&#8217;re sold out, then you&#8217;re gonna have to do tons more drivin&#8217; before you can get your<em> fix</em>. </span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">I can already feel the stress level boiling up as I sit here and type this. And I don&#8217;t even drink any more! Jeez, how did I ever live that life for as long as I did? All that stress, that misery, daily. <strong>No wonder I drank.</strong> I guess it was an <em>attempt</em> to make the <em>hell </em>of drinking go away. Talk about a vicious cycle.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Thankfully I&#8217;m no longer wobbling down that path. Nope, not me. I&#8217;m on a completely different journey now and after 1,463 days <em>(not that I&#8217;m counting),</em> one thing&#8217;s for certain, it&#8217;s way too late to turn back now.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhgg6_dGnI/AAAAAAAABKU/yCJMwBZ3crQ/s1600/drunk+5.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 320px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhgg6_dGnI/AAAAAAAABKU/yCJMwBZ3crQ/s400/drunk+5.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501253063540546162" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">The cool thing is though, I <strong>don&#8217;t want to</strong> turn around and go back to the life I used to live. <em>No friggin&#8217; thanks</em>. The best part is that not too long ago I wouldn&#8217;t have been able to say that but I think I&#8217;m finally beginning to realize that stopping all of that ridiculous behavior was actually a<em> smart</em> move.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Maybe when you get to the point that the bright light that continues to shine in your eyes has changed from a Freight Train barreling down on you into <em>ALL </em>the beautiful lights that shine upon the <em>Land Of Opportunity</em>. A place where you can <strong>have</strong> anything, <strong>do</strong> anything, <strong>be</strong> anything you ever wanted, ever dreamed of.</span><br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhhY8wcmRI/AAAAAAAABKk/ioZwBAh0PJo/s1600/drunk+hobby.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 186px; height: 271px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhhY8wcmRI/AAAAAAAABKk/ioZwBAh0PJo/s320/drunk+hobby.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501254026087143698" /></a><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Who&#8217;d a thought that the life I was living just four short years ago, a life I lived for many many years is finally changing from <em>memories of misery</em> to an actual learning experience, allowing me to grow from them and to expand my horizons. </span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">Perhaps someday I will be able to look back on all of those years I consider to be <em>time wasted</em> and turn them around into being <em>lessons </em>that I can help others learn from. Wouldn&#8217;t that be wonderful? To help others avoid a life of misery and regret. That would truly make it all worth it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family:Verdana;">And so I&#8217;ll continue to count the days, the days until I reach <em>Lucky #5,</em> five years in the <strong>Total Sobriety Society</strong>. I can only imagine how much wisdom I will have gained at that point. Wisdom that I can share with others. Can&#8217;t wait!</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhhKOp1g8I/AAAAAAAABKc/tasOvVJdDf8/s1600/drunk+coaster.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 314px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TFhhKOp1g8I/AAAAAAAABKc/tasOvVJdDf8/s320/drunk+coaster.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5501253773193216962" /></a></p>
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<span style="font-family:Verdana;">If you find yourself in a similar situation, can relate to this tale in any way, I&#8217;d enjoy hearing about it and if you liked this Post, I&#8217;d appreciate it if you&#8217;d share it with your friends.</span></p>
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		<title>The Fine Line Between Prayer and Reality</title>
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<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Although this is a bit off the beaten path for my blogging, I have to admit that this is a topic that has struck a nerve with me and therefore, at the risk of offending, even losing a few of my beloved readers, I feel strongly enough about it that I&#8217;m going to voice my opinion. Take it or leave it, for better or worse and all that good stuff.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Politics and Religion, two topics that I know better than to even mess with. As they say, <strong>&#8220;Don&#8217;t EVEN go there!&#8221; </strong>But, despite my better judgement, I&#8217;m goin&#8217; <strong>there.</strong></span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqWekA6PkI/AAAAAAAAA7c/yIDaNfn6l6c/s1600/hillbilly+44.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 230px; height: 320px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqWekA6PkI/AAAAAAAAA7c/yIDaNfn6l6c/s320/hillbilly+44.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492868147339476546" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">A <em>situation</em> has come up recently regarding some <em>unneighborly</em> neighbors and their terrorizing of the neighborhood and the decent citizens that live within this neighborhood. Long story short, it&#8217;s a household containing one worthless, grouchy ol&#8217; (in his 70s?) drunk, one 1960&#8242;s psycho ex Flower Power hippie reject artist (his wife) and four sons of various degrees of drug/alcohol rehab and incarciration. Not exactly the typical <strong>Leave It To Beaver </strong>household.</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqCcUFWmaI/AAAAAAAAA6E/_FN8laUZNPc/s1600/></a>hillbilly+44.jpg&#8221;><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 287px; height: 400px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqCcUFWmaI/AAAAAAAAA6E/_FN8laUZNPc/s400/hillbilly+44.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492846118470850978" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">No doubt many of you can relate to this group of misfits. Lots of these <strong>Walton</strong> families exist in every community throughout our wonderful nation. And each stands out more to their victims living close by than to those who never actually get to experience the pleasure of coming in contact with them.</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqUWQ6aRHI/AAAAAAAAA7M/FGguAOpjNW0/s1600/grass.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: right; HE="" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqUWQ6aRHI/AAAAAAAAA7M/FGguAOpjNW0/s320/IGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492865805749732466" border="0" altgrass.jpg" /></a></p>
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<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Dealing first hand with this group of losers is always a gamble. You never know if the soft and friendly approach is best or not. While this will work in most everyday interactions with people that have an ounce of decency and any sort of semblance of respect for their neighbors, for others it may not. These are people that all want to live in harmony with their surroundings and the people that make up their neighborhood.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Then there are the others, the worthless idiots that couldn&#8217;t care less about how what they do effects anyone or anything else around them. Yeah, real winners. I should say losers. That seems to be more appropriate. People that have nothing better to do than to make everyone elses life miserable. If they&#8217;re gonna be miserable, might as well take everybody else down with &#8216;em.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">I hate to judge people based on what others have said about them. Not knowing the history of the previous encounters that lead them to their perceptions, I never like to pass judgement on someone based on another persons interactions. Like they say, there are two sides to every story.</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqVxea2lnI/AAAAAAAAA7U/xWQeUf3QMQs/s1600/oj%252520simpson.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 265px; height: 320px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqVxea2lnI/AAAAAAAAA7U/xWQeUf3QMQs/s320/oj%252520simpson.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492867372743562866" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">While I must admit, the laundry list of evidence against this family has been longer than the list of incriminating evidence against O.J. but if you recall, he was found not guilty. And so I had to approach the situation with an open mind. I mean c&#8217;mon, can a family really be <strong>THIS </strong>bad? Apparently so.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Now while I myself had never had a previous <em>run-in</em> of any sort with these people, I guess that&#8217;s mainly because I just wasn&#8217;t around the situation enough to ever have to deal with it <strong>or</strong> them. I&#8217;ve been lucky enough to have a friend let me stay in his Cabin near the lake in exchange for some home and yard maintenance and so far, I&#8217;ve been up here about five weeks. Sweet deal to say the least. No doubt I&#8217;ll end up with a blog post or two about my summer at the Lake.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqXHG5Q6_I/AAAAAAAAA7k/SgDb5icg9DA/s1600/hillbilly-2.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 205px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqXHG5Q6_I/AAAAAAAAA7k/SgDb5icg9DA/s320/hillbilly-2.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492868843897416690" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As far as my opinion of the Hatfields <em>(or is it the McCoys?) </em>is concerned, everything changed for me yesterday and now I&#8217;m a convert, a true believer in what the others have said about him and his family. I found out for myself that this guy, the Leader of the pack, is a complete piece of shit!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Yep, them&#8217;s strong words I know but in this case, not nearly strong enough. Every time I see him walk by with his Pit Bulls<em> (nothing against Pit Bulls, I think they can be great dogs in the care of responsible pet owners, which these people clearly aren&#8217;t. They continually let their dogs roam unleashed throughout the neighborhood, free to terrorize and poop wherever they please) </em>I expect to hear a couple of banjos start to play <em>(think Deliverance)</em> and I immediately begin to hear Ned Beatty scream somewhere off in the distance.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqYtfTVezI/AAAAAAAAA7s/UWKPJXRZe-Q/s1600/deliv01.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqYtfTVezI/AAAAAAAAA7s/UWKPJXRZe-Q/s320/deliv01.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492870602795875122" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">This guy is the epitomy of one of those guys that lives wayyyyy back in the swamp, livin&#8217; off the land, zero education, a product of incest.<strong> Yikes, now I&#8217;m even scaring myself! </strong></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Supposedly he used to work for the Studios in Hollywood and his wife was an artist but right about now, I&#8217;m having a hard time believing any of that. I&#8217;m choosing to go with the <strong><strong>&#8216;Swamp Thing&#8217; </strong></strong>scenario and as far as I&#8217;m concerned, he&#8217;s havin&#8217; <em>(or had)</em> sexual relations with his sister.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">My friends <em>(the owners of the Cabin)</em> and a few other friends from around the neighborhood were relaxing on the front porch the night of July 4th, telling stories and just generally BS&#8217;n&#8217; about all the fun we had enjoying the fireworks display that had just taken place. Watching all of the colors reflecting off the water, what seemed like a thousand boats floating out in the middle of this sea of colors, truly an amazing spectacle<em> (more in another post).</em></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Ok, I know sitting on the front porch, talkin&#8217; BS sounds a bit Hillbilly~ish as well but up here, the stars are so close you can almost reach up and touch &#8216;em. It&#8217;s so wonderful just to sit outside and star gaze. That is, of course, unless an idiot neighbor has his flood lights on. <em>And so the real story begins.</em></span><br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqbBsM7q1I/AAAAAAAAA70/QVENCQFss4g/s1600/Bright_Light.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 300px; height: 239px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqbBsM7q1I/AAAAAAAAA70/QVENCQFss4g/s400/Bright_Light.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492873148879317842" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Doing our best to enjoy the evening, we were relentlessly confronted by this glaring light and with the houses all built on different levels, this one particular light is right at eye level. No shroud around it, just a light that looks like it was bolted way up in a tree to shine down on his parking area. No problem or so you&#8217;d think.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Well, when you have an unshrouded light that casts shadows 300 yards away, <strong>THAT&#8217;S</strong> a problem! At least for everyone within 300 yards of it! There&#8217;s a reason that they don&#8217;t have overhead street lights up here, same as in the desert. It&#8217;s to preserve the night sky. That&#8217;s why people leave the city in an effort to see an eclipse or even just to enjoy the stars. When you live in a world full of light pollution, all you can see is the next McDonalds sign down the street.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">And so my buddy, that owns this Cabin, went down to his house to talk to him about the light and a miracle occured, the light went out. Oh, how we all cheered. Suddenly you weren&#8217;t in the City, you were back up in the mountains, at the lake, enjoying the night sky.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqJOreEvxI/AAAAAAAAA68/xKEH9pIFFoQ/s1600/moon-over-lake-t5-1.jpg"><img style="display:block; margin:0px auto 10px; text-align:right;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqJOreEvxI/AAAAAAAAA68/xKEH9pIFFoQ/s400/moon-over-lake-t5-1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492853580811779858" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Well, that lasted about a day and then the light was back on. He even leaves it on during the day. Why, who knows. Maybe that&#8217;s <em>how they roll </em>in the swamp. Come to think about it, maybe that&#8217;s why he leaves it on all the time, they don&#8217;t actually have electricity in the swamp and he&#8217;s still enthralled by the magic of it all.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">So yesterday morning, as he was roamin&#8217; the dogs without a leash I asked him if we could come to some sort of a compromise that would benefit him and all his neighbors <em>(that he&#8217;s buggin&#8217; the shit out of). </em>I told him I&#8217;d even buy the shroud for it or a whole new light if I had to. Anything to try and stop the paint from peeling off the front of everybodys cabins from his glaring onslaught.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqcglUO1uI/AAAAAAAAA78/2KgwVojCVfU/s1600/hillbilly_dogs_teeth.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 236px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqcglUO1uI/AAAAAAAAA78/2KgwVojCVfU/s400/hillbilly_dogs_teeth.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492874779118458594" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">He was more than fine with it, even going so far as to tell me that he had a ladder I could use if I needed to get access that far up in the tree. I told him no problem, I&#8217;m glad to do what I can to save the summer nights. I knew I&#8217;d be heading back down the hill in the next few days and I&#8217;d stop by Home Dump and pick one up. Right on, problem solved. Or so I thought anyway.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">I went over there to check it out last evening to see how I was gonna tackle it. Would I need a shroud or an entirely new light? Let&#8217;s take a look. After a couple minutes, I decided might as well get a whole new light rather than try to half ass something on there. That way everybody&#8217;s happy.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqd_0cFT1I/AAAAAAAAA8E/LTi7VDqClgg/s1600/deliverance-3.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 290px; height: 194px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqd_0cFT1I/AAAAAAAAA8E/LTi7VDqClgg/s320/deliverance-3.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492876415265492818" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As I stroll back across the street, here comes this drunk ass lunatic, waving his flashlight at me, yelling at the top of his lungs, <strong>&#8220;HEY YOU, HEY YOU!&#8221; </strong>he knows my name but must have forgotten it in his drunken rage. Then the cussing starts. <strong>&#8220;&#8216;F&#8217; YOU, &#8216;F&#8217; THEM </strong> <em>(as he points his flashlight at all the neighbors houses),</em> <strong>&#8216;F&#8217; ALL YOU PEOPLE, I&#8217;M NOT CHANGING THAT LIGHT! &#8216;F&#8217; YOU!!!&#8221;</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">So I reminded him that I said I was gonna take care of it. He wouldn&#8217;t have to dig a coffee can out of the ground in his backyard for any coins. The light would just magically appear and everybody would be happy. He wasn&#8217;t havin&#8217; none of that. He just kept on ranting and raving, screaming at the top of his lungs.</span> </p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">At first I thought he was joking, since he was totally on board with it six hours earlier but once I realized just how plastered he was, screaming at the top of his lungs at 10 o&#8217;clock at night, it began to dawn on me that this guy is just out of his mind.</span><br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqf3FtpQNI/AAAAAAAAA8M/9lpaJOZpcWM/s1600/deliverance+6.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 221px; height: 300px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqf3FtpQNI/AAAAAAAAA8M/9lpaJOZpcWM/s400/deliverance+6.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492878464306987218" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">He&#8217;s a mentally challenged <em>(pickled brain)</em> worthless old man and the best thing to do would be to bite my tongue. I did my best to contain my laughter but based on what a fool he was making of himself, I admit to letting out a couple chuckles. Hey, I tried.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">You could tell he wanted to hit me but without his Pit Bull or his psychotic sons to back him up, he didn&#8217;t dare take a chance. I just stood there and let him go off. Like they say, you can&#8217;t argue with an idiot and so I let him go on until he ran out of hot air, agreeing with everything he said.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As he stumbled out of the yard and down the street, I just kept hoping he&#8217;d fall flat on his face on the asphalt but damn it, no such luck. I&#8217;m a firm believer in Karma so I know he&#8217;ll get his sooner or later, I just hope it&#8217;s sooner than later. In fact, I can hardly wait!</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As I contemplated the evenings <em>festivities,</em> one question continually popped into my head. What made him change his mind, from one second being all for it and the next, totally against it? Then it finally dawned on me. Earlier that afternoon, while he was roamin&#8217; his dogs, he saw that my neighbor, who despises him, was on the front steps and her and I were talking.</span><br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqicdskLTI/AAAAAAAAA8c/Qv5HdJy6pYk/s1600/hatfields.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 311px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqicdskLTI/AAAAAAAAA8c/Qv5HdJy6pYk/s400/hatfields.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492881305423326514" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Both her and her husband are the nicest people on earth, big time church goers and they love everybody. Everybody except him and his family. Apparently the Hatfield and McCoy Family Feud has been going on for quite some time between them and it doesn&#8217;t appear it&#8217;s gonna end anytime soon.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As he walked by, she mentioned that one of his dogs had chased a friend of hers and boy, was he shocked to hear that <em>(Yeah, right). </em>He mumbled something about how <strong>&#8220;He&#8217;s never seen the dog do THAT before&#8221;</strong> and continued on his way.</span> </p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">I think it was at that point that his sick paranoid mind began to take over and he realized that it was all a conspiracy against him. Oooohhh, what could we have been planning? First, it&#8217;s the obnoxious overhead light, then it&#8217;s the obnoxious dogs, then what, the obnoxious color of his truck?<strong> OMG, when will it all stop?</strong></span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqksIcLsxI/AAAAAAAAA80/6Z0Hz2-qqww/s1600/hillbilly1.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 267px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqksIcLsxI/AAAAAAAAA80/6Z0Hz2-qqww/s400/hillbilly1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492883773618631442" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">As the one remaining bent, rusty and squeaky wheel continued to spin at a snails pace inside his brain, he obviously went into <strong>panic mode</strong>. All these people, they&#8217;re all against me, they all hate me and I can&#8217;t understand why!!! So he did the only thing he knew how to do, <strong>GET HAMMERED!</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">He lives in a constant state of fear, fear that he&#8217;s created all by himself. That&#8217;s the reason behind the overhead light. He&#8217;s afraid that someone&#8217;s going to break into his truck and try to steal something or better yet, steal the entire truck. And if he has a light on, he&#8217;ll be able to stop &#8216;em.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Too bad the jackass doesn&#8217;t realize that the only people that are going to do that are his own kids and they&#8217;ll just take his keys while he&#8217;s passed out on the couch, if they need to make a late night drug run. The light only makes it easier for them to see what&#8217;s in the baggie they just brought home.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqlQGAG3wI/AAAAAAAAA88/cjQEplGSYrg/s1600/090618hillbilly.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 350px; height: 366px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDqlQGAG3wI/AAAAAAAAA88/cjQEplGSYrg/s400/090618hillbilly.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492884391439294210" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">To give you an example of just how sweet his kids are, the only semi coherent one <em>(brain fried by drugs &#038; alcohol)</em> came by a few weeks ago to say he hoped that his brothers hadn&#8217;t been breaking in to all the houses close by, including this one, only the ones farther away <em>(perhaps that&#8217;s why I haven&#8217;t seen the other three lately, they&#8217;re in jail) </em>and this is coming from a guy that went to jail himself for threatening to kill his parents <em>(too bad he didn&#8217;t follow through, like everything else in his life).</em></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">He&#8217;s so paranoid of the exact nightmare that he himself has created. He&#8217;s brought that <em>Los Angeles Theft / Drug Ring </em>mentality up to the mountains with him, which in actuality is pretty accurate since his family perpetuates it.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDql-kMg04I/AAAAAAAAA9E/uScHnWMC8qA/s1600/Yup_Always_Say_Your_Prayer_Before_Meal.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 240px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/TDql-kMg04I/AAAAAAAAA9E/uScHnWMC8qA/s320/Yup_Always_Say_Your_Prayer_Before_Meal.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5492885189818372994" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">All this brings up the question, how do you deal with a psycho neighbor from hell? Hmmmm, good question. A friend brought up the fact that he&#8217;s a miserable person <em>(got that) </em>and he&#8217;s taking his misery out on those that surround him. Therefore, we should pray that he gets better.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">That&#8217;s all fine and dandy but prayers seem to take an awful long time to come to fruition and so what do we do in the mean time, in the <strong>REAL</strong> world? How do we deal with someone that is a constant threat to everyone he comes in contact with? Forcing everyone to live in fear of retaliation from him and his sons, never knowing if your home, your car, even yourself will be damaged at the hands of these lunatics.</span><br />
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<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Calling the Sheriff obviously won&#8217;t do any good. They are on everybodys speed dial and they&#8217;re here so often that they might as well set up a Sub Station. Hey, come to think of it, there&#8217;s already a light set up so they can conduct their night operations without any problems.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">So what are we left with? Do we really have any alternatives other than to just continue to live our lives in fear of retaliation? I guess we can start off by praying, hoping that someday he&#8217;ll see the light, realize what a nightmare he&#8217;s creating for so many others around him and all of a sudden become a courteous and conscienceous neighbor. Yeah, I agree, doesn&#8217;t sound too likely but I guess there&#8217;s always hope.</span><br />
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<p><span style="font-family:Verdana;">Or we could go with Plan B, which is to wait until he steps one foot on the property and then at that point the only decision will be whether or not he gets a single or a double barrel dose of reality. The choice is his to make.</span></p>
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<p><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dN0Aw5TWI/AAAAAAAAAmU/JCSDDtHVxZo/s1600/tramp_stamp+name.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 400px; height: 300px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dN0Aw5TWI/AAAAAAAAAmU/JCSDDtHVxZo/s400/tramp_stamp+name.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464922228791004514" /></a><span style="font-family:verdana;">What is it about a simple little tattoo that can create <strong>so much </strong>controversy? Whether you love them or hate them, it&#8217;s pretty much guaranteed that everyone has an opinion about them. And a rather strong one at that.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Does it really classify a woman as a <strong>Tramp</strong>, a<strong> Slut</strong>, a <strong>Sure Thing</strong>? I would have to think that there are <strong>many</strong> other <em><strong>&#8216;qualifications&#8217;</strong></em> that need to be met before one can be placed into that <strong>elite</strong> category.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">I don&#8217;t mind saying that I myself am a <strong>huge</strong> fan of the lower back tattoo. I don&#8217;t feel comfortable referring to them as <strong>&#8220;Tramp Stamps&#8221;, </strong>let alone all of the <strong>other</strong> terrible names that have been associated with them. No need to go into those here, I&#8217;m sure we&#8217;ve all heard them and most are extremely degrading.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Exactly <strong>why</strong> I love these tattoos, I&#8217;m not too sure. I haven&#8217;t quite <em><strong>&#8216;pinned it down&#8217; </strong></em>as it were. One thing&#8217;s for sure though, when applied with taste, they can be <strong>sexy as hell</strong>.</span><br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dYwGQMWlI/AAAAAAAAAn0/YfAtd7H5fQo/s1600/Tramp-Stamp--47794-1++crop.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 391px; height: 259px;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dYwGQMWlI/AAAAAAAAAn0/YfAtd7H5fQo/s400/Tramp-Stamp--47794-1++crop.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464934256172882514" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;"><strong>Yikes, did I just say that? </strong>I guess I did. Maybe it <strong>IS</strong> the fact that I think they can be super sexy, especially on an already attractive woman. But the tattoo alone isn&#8217;t the <strong>ONLY</strong> thing a woman can do to look sexy. A nice pair of low rise jeans with a bit of thong <em><strong>&#8216;sticking up&#8217;</strong></em> above the belt line, the proverbial<strong> &#8220;Whale Tail&#8221; </strong>as it were can also be a wonderful addition to a womans wardrobe.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Not to say that this <strong><em>&#8216;combo&#8217; </em></strong>can&#8217;t be worn by women of all shapes and sizes but if they are being displayed as a means of getting attention to a certain <em><strong>&#8216;area&#8217;</strong></em> that normally <strong>wouldn&#8217;t</strong>, let alone <strong>shouldn&#8217;t</strong> be displayed publicly, then that <strong>could</strong> be an issue.</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dOu-s7vmI/AAAAAAAAAmk/H9Uvhr5FFqw/s1600/tattoogirls9rc.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 386px; height: 303px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dOu-s7vmI/AAAAAAAAAmk/H9Uvhr5FFqw/s400/tattoogirls9rc.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464923241849798242" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">But when a woman leans over and you happen to catch a <em><strong>&#8216;sneak peek&#8217;</strong></em> at her lower back, discovering that it holds an unforseen <em><strong>&#8216;treasure&#8217; </strong></em>of sorts, it just doesn&#8217;t get much better than that. At least not in my book.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">As they say,<strong> &#8220;some things are better left unseen&#8221; </strong>and in the case of alot of these tattoos, I&#8217;d have to agree that <em><strong>&#8216;out of sight, out of mind&#8217;</strong></em> might have been a better way to go. Perhaps it&#8217;s because the owners can&#8217;t actually see what&#8217;s going on behind them that allows them to display these <em><strong>&#8216;disasters&#8217;</strong></em>, seemingly without a care.</span><br />
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dP38M8TdI/AAAAAAAAAms/q5MqQ5cJNYE/s1600/tramp057.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 240px; height: 320px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dP38M8TdI/AAAAAAAAAms/q5MqQ5cJNYE/s320/tramp057.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464924495309196754" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">As with anything else, tattoos can be taken to the extreme and beyond, with the limits of bad taste being exceeded in <strong>no time</strong>. However, the decision is entirely up to the <em><strong>&#8216;owner&#8217; </strong></em>and you&#8217;d have to think that quite a bit of consideration was taken before they ever let someone apply something to their body that no doubt would last a lifetime.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Although I must admit I do have my doubts as to the talent posessed by some of the so called <em><strong>&#8216;artists&#8217; </strong></em>that actually perform the work. While some are exquisite works of art, others look as if they were <em><strong>&#8216;scratched in&#8217; </strong></em>by some poorly trained <strong>meth addict</strong> in the back of an alley. I really do feel sorry for some of these women as I would have to think that what they ended up with is not how their <strong>dream tattoo</strong> started out in their mind. Truly a shame as there is no<strong> eraser </strong>that will make it go away.</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dWlaC5OnI/AAAAAAAAAns/bq5zG7lqRHU/s1600/forn725l.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 304px; height: 400px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dWlaC5OnI/AAAAAAAAAns/bq5zG7lqRHU/s400/forn725l.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464931873483995762" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Which also brings to mind all of the criticisms concerning how the<em><strong> &#8216;tattooees&#8217; </strong></em>will look once they get old and wrinkled. What will happen to their <em><strong>&#8216;butterfly&#8217;</strong></em> at that point? Will it just look like a wrinkled old vulture, hovering over it&#8217;s prey?</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">C&#8217;mon now, at that point, even if they do have somebody <strong>back there</strong> checkin&#8217; it out I&#8217;d find it hard to believe that the person is going to make a comment about it. I could be wrong but I just don&#8217;t believe that&#8217;s enough of a reason not to get a tattoo in the first place.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Is this the same ol&#8217; thing, where the people that don&#8217;t have the guts to get a tattoo choose to talk down the ones that can put up with the pain for a whole bunch of individuality? I&#8217;d hate to think they are that shallow but you just never know.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">In fact, who came up with the name <em><strong>&#8216;Tramp Stamp&#8217;</strong></em> in the first place? Wouldn&#8217;t <strong>&#8220;Buttper Sticker&#8221; </strong>have been a bit more <em><strong>&#8216;neutral&#8217;</strong></em>, somewhat less degrading? I&#8217;d assume it had to be a <strong>hater</strong> of Tattoos of all kinds. More than likely they also hate that other wonderful invention, the <strong>Belly Button Ring</strong>. But that&#8217;s an entirely different post altogether, one that I&#8217;ll more than likely get into later.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dQ-X3sADI/AAAAAAAAAnE/XCRzQ5XLBHo/s1600/belly-button-ring.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 368px; height: 243px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dQ-X3sADI/AAAAAAAAAnE/XCRzQ5XLBHo/s400/belly-button-ring.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464925705327083570" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Could it be that most of the women that posess the lower back tattoos choose to display them for all to see that causes some women to be so against them? Could they be jealous? Perhaps these women don&#8217;t feel comfortable enough with their own bodies to <em><strong>&#8216;let it all hang out&#8217;</strong></em>, let alone put a sign on it sayin&#8217; <em><strong>&#8216;look at me&#8217;</strong></em>.</span><br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dM75yzgtI/AAAAAAAAAmM/jmtZ79dZpm4/s1600/1266341160_butterfly.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 205px;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dM75yzgtI/AAAAAAAAAmM/jmtZ79dZpm4/s320/1266341160_butterfly.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464921264847291090" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">I&#8217;ve never been a big fan of women that wear next to nothing in public. I&#8217;ve always preferred to leave something to the imagination, a little somethin&#8217; for later. Especially when it comes to women I&#8217;m dating. Call me old fashioned but I&#8217;d like to think that there is something that is somewhat special,<em><strong> &#8216;off limits&#8217; </strong></em>and only for <strong>me </strong>to see. Like I said, I&#8217;m old fashioned.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Just like the whole <strong>fake boobs</strong> thing. And yes, you guessed it, I&#8217;m not a huge fan of the <strong>quadruple triple double D&#8217;s</strong>. I&#8217;m all about the <em><strong>&#8216;real deal&#8217;</strong></em>, gimme real <strong>A&#8217;s </strong>as opposed to fake triple <strong>G&#8217;s </strong>anyday. Not only do they tend to look disproportionate to the rest of their bodies, they tend to <em><strong>&#8216;feel&#8217; </strong></em>all wrong and again, it&#8217;s just <strong>not</strong> for me.</span><br />
<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dRmaIAKvI/AAAAAAAAAnM/5n9BKlFWqy0/s1600/huge_boobs+1.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 359px; height: 400px;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dRmaIAKvI/AAAAAAAAAnM/5n9BKlFWqy0/s400/huge_boobs+1.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464926393127152370" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Sometimes I wonder what the actual stats are on fake boobs. Do guys <strong>really</strong> like them as much as women think they do or is it more of a thing where women do it to impress other women. I think the media has a bunch to do with it and while I agree that a bit of enhancement is ok, not to mention for medical reasons, but some of these women take it <strong>too far</strong>. <strong>OK, WAY TOO FAR!</strong></span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Which could also be said for some of the women and their tattoos. I&#8217;ve heard that it can become addicting and since I don&#8217;t currently have any tattoos of my own, I&#8217;m only guessing but I wouldn&#8217;t be surprised at all to hear that it is indeed true. No doubt some have taken it way beyond the <em><strong>&#8216;mainstream&#8217;</strong></em> to a point that&#8217;s it&#8217;s just about bordering on insanity.</span><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dR4Nqf9_I/AAAAAAAAAnU/Jywgrj_aKKw/s1600/tatooed+grandma.JPG"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 302px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S9dR4Nqf9_I/AAAAAAAAAnU/Jywgrj_aKKw/s320/tatooed+grandma.JPG" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5464926699019827186" /></a></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Almost every square inch of their body being covered in tattoos is way beyond attractive. At that point it&#8217;s just seems a bit obsessive and then it gets kinda freaky. By no means am I saying it&#8217;s wrong but again, just not for me.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">Which brings us back to my original point. While tattoos aren&#8217;t for everyone, each individual should be able to decide for themselves what is right and wrong for them. It has nothing to do with what anyone else thinks and they surely shouldn&#8217;t be labeled in any way for choosing to fly their <em><strong>&#8216;freedom flag&#8217;</strong></em>.</span></p>
<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">So to all the women out there that have been <em><strong>&#8216;branded&#8217;</strong></em> as <strong>Tramps</strong>, I want to commend you for living life on your own terms and not givin&#8217; a damn what others think. Because without <strong>you</strong>, we&#8217;d never know who the <em><strong>&#8216;good girls&#8217; </strong></em>are.</span><br />
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<p><span style="font-family:verdana;">I&#8217;d <strong>love</strong> to hear your opinion. If you&#8217;re a fan of <strong>Tramp Stamps</strong>, I&#8217;d love to hear about it. If not, I&#8217;d enjoy hearing about that as well and perhaps all the reasons why you don&#8217;t like them. And if you enjoyed this Post, I&#8217;d appreciate it if you&#8217;d share this with your friends.
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		<title>The Low Road to Soberville&#8230;</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[I gotta admit, I expected more. A LOT more. After four very long years without beers, I truly thought my life would have done a complete 180 degree U~Turn and I&#8217;d be on the Golden Road to happiness. Or at the very least, standing at the gate, waiting for somebody to unlock it so I [...]]]></description>
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<div><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5afDTLxyQI/AAAAAAAAAKM/VIO1E0XIMGo/s1600-h/longroad.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446715678389291266" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 240px; cursor: hand;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5afDTLxyQI/AAAAAAAAAKM/VIO1E0XIMGo/s320/longroad.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a><span style="font-family:verdana;">I gotta admit, I expected more. A <strong>LOT</strong> more. After four very long years without beers, I truly thought my life would have done a complete 180 degree U~Turn and I&#8217;d be on the Golden Road to happiness. Or at the very least, standing at the gate, waiting for somebody to unlock it so I could start heading down that beautiful road. But alas, no such luck. For all I know, the gate&#8217;s still locked because I sure as hell can&#8217;t see it from here.<br />
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Now keep in mind this hasn&#8217;t been four years of <strong><em>&#8216;total&#8217;</em></strong> sobriety as I was still doing a bit of <strong><em>&#8216;self medicating&#8217;</em></strong> until Aug. 2nd of &#8217;06 but I haven&#8217;t had any alcohol as of March 6th, &#8217;06 so it&#8217;s been four years without beers. Shouldn&#8217;t that count for something? Isn&#8217;t there some kind of a reward for good behavior? Apparently not. At least not one that I can see anyway.<br />
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Heck, I know I don&#8217;t deserve a Gold, Silver or a Bronze but I&#8217;d be more than happy to settle for a tin foil or perhaps even a plastic Medal of some sort. Anything to show that all of this has been worth it in some way or another. But no, nothing to hang around my neck but a noose. And to be honest, that really doesn&#8217;t seem like much of a reward.</span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">So as I sit here, climbing the walls, trying to remember why on earth I ever decided to get sober in the first place, I really have to concentrate hard on coming up with any way possible to prove to myself that this wasn&#8217;t just a huge waste of time. I mean c&#8217;mon, think of all that partying I could have been doing. What a shame to have missed out on all that <strong><em>&#8216;fun&#8217;</em></strong>.<br />
<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aZteaID8I/AAAAAAAAAJ0/JEbhTVdkrrs/s1600-h/funny_pictures_Huge_beer_fridge.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446709805887000514" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 256px; float: right; height: 320px; cursor: hand;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aZteaID8I/AAAAAAAAAJ0/JEbhTVdkrrs/s320/funny_pictures_Huge_beer_fridge.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a></p>
<p><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aQj41j4PI/AAAAAAAAAJM/cAnENrTxSV8/s1600-h/funny_pictures_Dad%2520Trained%2520His%2520Kid%2520Well.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446699745578049778" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 265px; cursor: hand;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aQj41j4PI/AAAAAAAAAJM/cAnENrTxSV8/s320/funny_pictures_Dad%2520Trained%2520His%2520Kid%2520Well.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a></p>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Not that all the years I spent drinking weren&#8217;t a huge waste of time but as difficult as it&#8217;s been for me to not give in to temptation these last few years, I truly do find myself searching for a reason why. Why did I quit? What have I gained?</span><br />
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">I have a buddy that continues to drink <em>(among other indulgences)</em> and despite getting a DUI on New Years of &#8217;09, losing his Drivers License for a year, various DUI Classes, thirteen weekends of wearing an orange jumpsuit while picking up trash along the freeway and all the other assorted <strong><em>&#8216;fun&#8217;</em></strong> that comes along with getting a DUI, I have to admit that at least from my viewpoint, his life doesn&#8217;t seem that much worse than it was prior to being arrested. He must not think so either since he continues to drink and drive.</span></div>
<div><a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aHy0XYscI/AAAAAAAAAIE/fwitfly2Jcc/s1600-h/funny_pictures_God_Noooooooooo.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446690106471133634" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 235px; cursor: hand;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aHy0XYscI/AAAAAAAAAIE/fwitfly2Jcc/s320/funny_pictures_God_Noooooooooo.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Now also keep in mind that he obviously doesn&#8217;t care how he appears to others or whether or not he makes a complete fool of himself when he&#8217;s drunk. I mean, how could he. He knows very well how ridiculous alcoholics look when they&#8217;re hammered and he also knows that he always makes a fool out of himself, yet he still continues to drink.<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aN2Xvc1MI/AAAAAAAAAIs/EIJVpcDnCzc/s1600-h/funny_pictures_ahh_what_a_feeling.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446696764576683202" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 239px; cursor: hand;" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aN2Xvc1MI/AAAAAAAAAIs/EIJVpcDnCzc/s320/funny_pictures_ahh_what_a_feeling.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">It&#8217;s kinda funny how when you&#8217;re drinking, you think that you have everyone <strong><em>&#8216;fooled&#8217; </em></strong>into believing that you&#8217;re sober but when you truly are sober, it&#8217;s so obvious when someone else is drunk. Luckily for me I have no desire to look, let alone act like a fool and so I use his <strong><em>&#8216;actions&#8217;</em></strong> as an example to remind me of what I don&#8217;t want out of life and who I don&#8217;t want to be. That might seem a bit selfish but he&#8217;s well aware of my using his getting drunk as a brutal reminder of why I don&#8217;t drink anymore.</span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">In fact, perhaps he should drink a bit more these days because apparently his <strong><em>&#8216;lessons&#8217;</em></strong> aren&#8217;t helping to remind me of the <strong><em>&#8216;evils&#8217;</em></strong> of drinking quite as often as I need them to. I&#8217;m sure he&#8217;d go for that, <strong><em>if</em></strong> he could afford it.<br />
<a href="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5abBaBeWgI/AAAAAAAAAJ8/mP2hVIk1Vlk/s1600-h/funny_pictures_cant_hold_his_liquor.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446711247818873346" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 234px; cursor: hand;" src="http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5abBaBeWgI/AAAAAAAAAJ8/mP2hVIk1Vlk/s320/funny_pictures_cant_hold_his_liquor.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Heck, I know I don&#8217;t deserve a Gold, Silver or even a Bronze but I&#8217;d be more than happy to settle for a tin foil or perhaps just a plastic Medal of some sort. Anything to show that all of this has been worth it in some way or another. But no, nothing to hang around my neck but a noose. And to be honest, that really doesn&#8217;t seem like much of a reward.</span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Thinking back, I can still remember the main reason I quit drinking in the first place and unfortunately my <strong><em>&#8216;luck&#8217;</em></strong> hasn&#8217;t really changed much in that arena. It&#8217;s becoming increasingly difficult to depend on that reason alone to keep me on the straight and narrow. With that being said, I am still grateful that I had that inspiration as my original motivation in the beginning. Without that, I wonder if I ever would have stopped the insanity.</span></div>
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<a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aJWBeqoiI/AAAAAAAAAIk/l1LNqbSRFi4/s1600-h/funny_pictures_Honest_Beggar.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446691810798379554" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 270px; cursor: hand;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aJWBeqoiI/AAAAAAAAAIk/l1LNqbSRFi4/s320/funny_pictures_Honest_Beggar.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></a></p>
<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">The only <strong><em>&#8216;other&#8217;</em></strong> reminder I have is knowing that I was living such a lonely, miserable life that the thought of facing another day without being drunk was absolutely not an option. I&#8217;ll be the first to admit that I thought about suicide quite often and I&#8217;ll bet many other alcoholics have pondered that very same thing at some point in their <strong><em>&#8216;careers&#8217;</em></strong> but luckily for me, I didn&#8217;t have the guts to go through with it.</span><br/><br/><br/></p>
<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Had I actually followed through with it, I would have missed out on meeting a few of the most incredible women ever. In fact, one very special woman truly stands out and even though she&#8217;s no longer with us, she&#8217;s my Angel up above and I continue to gather strength from her every day. Had I not met her, who knows where I&#8217;d be today and for that I will be forever grateful.</span>
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<span style="font-family:verdana;">I was also lucky enough to <strong><em>&#8216;meet&#8217;</em></strong> another amazing woman during these last four years and had I not cleaned up my act, chances are I never would have had the opportunity to do so. I&#8217;ve been impressed by her as far back as the late &#8217;80s or early &#8217;90s and as I watched her on tv back then, I admit I fantasized about our <strong><em>&#8216;dream life&#8217;</em></strong> together. Never in my wildest dreams could I have imagined that we would in any way make contact in <strong><em>&#8216;real life&#8217;</em></strong> and although I&#8217;ve never met her face to face, the online <strong><em>&#8216;correspondence&#8217; </em></strong>that we have shared has had more of an impact on me than she&#8217;ll ever know. For me it has forged a once in a lifetime bond that I cherish to this day. Yes, I know, chances are she has no idea who I am, what my name is or that I even exist but hey, it&#8217;s my fantasy dammit and if I choose to believe that she has the slightest clue who I am then leave it be, ok? Let me live out my dream.</div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Not all of my <strong><em>&#8216;opposite sex&#8217;</em></strong> interactions have gone perfectly over these last four years but I would have to believe that&#8217;s kinda par for the course. Regardless of whether or not someone is sober or drunk, not all relationships are gonna work out. That&#8217;s just life.<img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446704691157643426" style="margin: 0px 0px 10px 10px; width: 320px; float: right; height: 227px; cursor: hand;" src="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5aVDwjnsKI/AAAAAAAAAJU/MkkYCyunTks/s320/funny_pictures_Putting%2520The%2520Girlfriend%2520To%2520Work.jpg" border="0" alt="" /></span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">But with that being said, I truly have met some incredible women, a few absolute Angels and I consider myself very lucky to have met them. And had I <strong><em>&#8216;packed it in&#8217;</em></strong> early, I never would have experienced any of <strong><em>&#8216;those&#8217;</em></strong> highs. So there&#8217;s something to be happy about after all. I guess that <strong>IS</strong> an improvement.</span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Apparently what it all boils down to is that rather than try to figure out what good has come from stopping my alcohol intake, perhaps I need to focus more on the unseen trials and tribulations that I unknowingly avoided.<br />
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Of course, I can only guess at all of the things that could have gone wrong in my life had I continued on my path to self destruction. Which is more than likely better than having to experience them first hand. So again, maybe that&#8217;s all the positivity I can take away from this experience.</span></div>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Is that enough to go on, reason enough to continue forward on this lonely, long ass dirt road to Soberville? I certainly hope so because at this point, it&#8217;s about all I have to go on and I would hate to add another failure to my <strong><em>&#8216;life resume&#8217;</em></strong>.<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5b0zBZgYXI/AAAAAAAAAKk/zpx3LrE0atI/s1600-h/funny_pictures_time_for_yoga_drunk-yoga.jpg"><img style="float:right; margin:0 0 10px 10px;cursor:pointer; cursor:hand;width: 320px; height: 268px;" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/S5b0zBZgYXI/AAAAAAAAAKk/zpx3LrE0atI/s320/funny_pictures_time_for_yoga_drunk-yoga.jpg" border="0" alt=""id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5446809956737114482" /></a></p>
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">And so whether I want to or not, I&#8217;m forced to stay on this path, continuing to wonder whether or not it&#8217;s the correct thing to do. Worse comes to worst, I can always go back to my old ways, drinking my days away on the Boardwalk. As we all know, there&#8217;s a Liquor Store on just about every corner and all it takes is a little bit of money to follow the rainbow to the <strong><em>&#8216;Pot &#8216;O&#8217; Gold&#8217;</em></strong>.<br />
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<div><span style="font-family:verdana;">Heck, if sobriety was that easy, everybody would do it and so I just have to try and look at each day as an adventure, rather than a nightmare. Instead of taking the high road, I guess I&#8217;m gonna have to stick with the low road. <strong>The Low Road To Soberville.</strong><br />
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		<title>3 Years, No Beers!</title>
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<p><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/SnZKzcmXUfI/AAAAAAAAABI/GdFIBEfrDaY/s1600-h/l_230871904c2746d337a3ac674f699df9.jpg"><img style="MARGIN: 0px 0px 10px 10px; WIDTH: 320px; FLOAT: right; HEIGHT: 240px; CURSOR: hand" id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5365558253769413106" border="0" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_9ifCsR91qJ4/SnZKzcmXUfI/AAAAAAAAABI/GdFIBEfrDaY/s320/l_230871904c2746d337a3ac674f699df9.jpg" /></a> <span style="font-family:verdana;">Wow, never thought I would ever be able to say that. Heck, I couldn&#8217;t go 3 minutes without a beer, let alone 3 years. In fact I really never thought I&#8217;d want to say that, it sounds like a <em>&#8216;bad&#8217;</em> thing. Why on earth would I ever be happy to quit drinking? I mean, who in their right mind would want to stop having fun? And after all, next to sex isn&#8217;t drinking the most fun a person could ever have? Well, at one time I sure thought so but as I look back, I might have been drunk at the time!</p>
<p>Like most people, I probably had my first beer in High School or there abouts. There were always local parties in town on Friday and Saturday nights. For the most part they were kept on the <em>&#8216;down low&#8217;</em> but all you had to do was stop by the Mohawk Gas Station, those guys always seemed to know where the best parties were going to be. Best meaning the most women and no parents around. Some parties weren&#8217;t at <em>&#8216;homes&#8217;</em> so to speak, some were in the local hills, say at the <em>&#8216;Water Tower&#8217;</em> and such places. For the most part they were never held at anybodys house more than once because of all the devastation caused by those darn kids.</p>
<p>Next step was to get some alcohol. Was it gonna be Gallo Bros., Boones Farm, Sloe Gin and 7 Up or the good ol&#8217; stand by, Beer? Hopefully someone had an older brother or sister that could do the <em>&#8216;dirty deed&#8217;</em> for you or else it meant waiting in front of the Liquor Store for a helpful stranger to <em>&#8216;score&#8217;</em> for you. That tended to add a bunch of time and stress to the situation, not knowing if you would find someone to buy it or not and there was always the risk of them just taking your money and driving off without getting you your beer. I mean what are you gonna do, call the Cops on &#8216;em?</p>
<p>Some parties were <em>&#8216;Keggers&#8217;</em> which was a mixed blessing. On one hand the beer was in essence already there but Keg beer never tastes as good, you don&#8217;t get the <em>&#8216;brand&#8217; [Michelob?]</em> you like, long line ups to get to the keg and who knows when and if it would run out. So much better to bring your own, that way you know you&#8217;re good to go. No worries.</p>
<p>I moved to San Diego after High School and needless to say, when you&#8217;re living at the beach without any adult supervision, every day <em>[and night]</em> is party time. At this point I had decided to expand my <em>&#8216;portfolio&#8217;</em> of alcoholic beverages to include those of the grape oriented variety. It just made more sense <em>&#8216;money wise&#8217;</em> as money was very tight back then, that&#8217;s for sure. Quickest buzz for the least amount of money <em>[thank you Ernest &amp; Julio Gallo]</em>, just has to be the best way to go. Right? Well, as I came to learn I was wrong, very wrong! The hangover the next day <em>[or two]</em> was just horrendous. So, off I went in search of a more  <em>&#8216;cost effective&#8217;</em> buzz. One without nearly as lengthy of a penalty.</p>
<p>Through the years I tried the various types of <em>&#8216;hard stuff&#8217;</em>, Whiskey, Tequila and Vodka, all with relatively the same result. The next day or two spent <em>&#8216;recovering&#8217; </em>and paying heavily for my sins. So I went on to become a connoiseur of sorts, sampling all of the better beers. I was never much of a Domestic guy, it was pretty much Imports only for me. As time went on I came to learn that the <em>&#8216;penalties&#8217;</em> weren&#8217;t quite as severe with beer and I became better at judging my limits, hopefully knowing when to say when before hitting the ground. Now, I didn&#8217;t always judge correctly, sometimes over doing it but for the most part I figured it out.</p>
<p>When you live at the beach, drinking isn&#8217;t just a hobby, it&#8217;s a lifestyle. It didn&#8217;t really matter what time of day or night, just walk<em>[stumble]</em> out the door and you would run into someone that was drinking. Back then you could drink on the Boardwalk. Many an hour was spent cruisin&#8217; our bicycles on the Boardwalk in search of fun and festivities, just basically wasting time. In fact, you could always tell the true Locals by the beer holders attached to their bicycle handlebars. It was a <em>&#8216;status symbol&#8217;</em> of sorts, he with the coolest <em>&#8216;Cool Cup&#8217;</em> wins and none of the tourists on rental bikes had them so they were just no way as cool as we were. Jeez, life was so much simpler back then.</p>
<p>So as time went on the <em>&#8216;regular&#8217;</em> beers just weren&#8217;t doin&#8217; the job anymore. I guess you build up a tolerance of sorts. Luckily, about this time all the Pale Ale Micro Brews were hittin&#8217; the scene. It was like liquid candy with a 5% alcohol content. Could life get any better than this? I doubt it. One pint was like drinking 3 Imports, what a bargain!</p>
<p>Bummer was that right about that same time they outlawed drinking on the Boardwalk, couldn&#8217;t even drink within 3ft. of the Sea Wall <em>[what the heck is this anyway, Russia?]</em> so the days of cruisin&#8217; the bikes, checkin&#8217; out the women and drinkin&#8217; a beer or twelve were over. They were replaced by drinking on the patio or at the Bars. I&#8217;m not really much of an <em>&#8216;indoors&#8217;</em> type of person and so the Bars weren&#8217;t really my thing but I had to make sacrifices in the name of a good buzz. I had also gotten sick on Tequila and Vodka so many times by this point that Rum was just about the only <em>&#8216;hard stuff&#8217;</em> I could still drink. So needless to say, my options were getting increasingly limited.</p>
<p>I&#8217;m ashamed to say it now but there were quite a few trips home from the Bars that I couldn&#8217;t tell you exactly which route I actually took. There were several to choose from and somehow, thank my lucky stars I made it home but I&#8217;m still unsure exactly how. It was ok if you were on your bike but in a car it&#8217;s a whole different story. I am so grateful to this day that I never hurt anyone else while driving on those ridiculously stupid trips home. I truly consider myself to be so lucky that I never got a DUI or involved in an accident while I was drunk, definitely a miracle.</p>
<p>In fact it seems like the only time I wasn&#8217;t drinking was when I was at work or sleeping. And while I was at work, all I could think about was getting off work and stopping by the Beach Market for a twelve pack on my way home. I probably dreamt about getting hammered while I was sleeping but I don&#8217;t usually remember my dreams the next day so it&#8217;s just a guess but I&#8217;ll bet it&#8217;s a good guess.</p>
<p>So here I was, starting off 2006 with one major change. I had been involved with the same job for many years and had grown tired of it to say the least. Too much stress, not enough money. Needless to say it was making me miserable. Now, I was what some call a<em> &#8216;functioning&#8217;</em> alcoholic. I always showed up to work no problem and did my job. In fact, after I quit drinking some people were surprised to find out that I even had a drinking problem. That&#8217;s how well I hid it. So on January 1st, 2006 I quit my job. Now, I&#8217;d like to be able to blame my consistent drinking on a job that I disliked but in reality that would just be a cop out. I drank because I wanted to catch a buzz, nobody else to blame but me. In fact, I drank even more after I quit my job. After all, I had a ton of new found <em>&#8216;free time&#8217;</em> on my hands. What better way to spend the hours than hangin&#8217; out at the beach and gettin&#8217; hammered? Even though I lived my life on a day to day basis, not really caring about tomorrow, I could see that if I kept up this pace I would soon be broke and living on the streets with a cardboard sign. To be honest, that didn&#8217;t really sound like a ton of fun. It&#8217;s hard to get a decent size ice chest mounted on a bicycle and if I kept going the way I was, a bike is just about the only thing I would have had left to my name. So I had to quit drinking.</p>
<p>Now, I believe I was like every other person out there that has some idea that they probably drink too much and should quit or at least cut down on their intake. Of course my personality won&#8217;t allow me to do anything half way and so if I&#8217;m gonna drink, <strong>I&#8217;M GONNA DRINK!</strong> I know better than to BS myself into thinking that I can have one or two beers and call it good. I had already tried that a million times and although I always started off with good intentions, it lasted until I finished the second beer and then I started rationalizing my way to a third beer, then a fourth and so on until all the beer was gone. And of course like every other alcoholic <em>[yes, I said alcoholic. In my opinion if you drink daily and you can't say NO to having a drink then you're an alcoholic]</em> I had already told myself I was gonna quit drinking a thousand times before. Every time I woke up feeling incredibly lousy from drinking the night before, <em>&#8220;That&#8217;s it, I quit&#8221;</em> but of course that only lasted a short time. As soon as I felt better I couldn&#8217;t remember the reason I ever wanted to quit and so I was back to drinking again.</p>
<p>OK then, so how in the heck was I gonna pull this off? How was I ever gonna quit this evil habit? I was surrounded by people gettin&#8217; hammered all day, every day. All my friends drank. Every fun thing I did revolved around alcohol. I was involved with classic cars, Woodies in particular and the best part of those Car Events <em>[or so I thought at the time]</em> was getting drunk. I related all of the fun and enjoyable things in my life to alcohol. If I quit drinking, how would I ever have fun again? Life as I knew it would cease to exist. Now remember, I already knew that I was gonna lose everything if I continued drinking but life wouldn&#8217;t be any fun if I wasn&#8217;t drinking so I really wouldn&#8217;t have had a life worth living anyway. Such a cunundrum. What should I do? The thought of throwing everything away for a buzz just seemed like such a waste. After all, I loved women too much and it&#8217;s tough to get a woman to go out with you when all you have is a rusty old bike with an ice chest strapped to the back. I mean, the 40 Year Old Virgin got a woman to go bike riding with him, in fact she even bought him a new bike. But he still had an apartment to take her back to. He would have been one step ahead of me and I couldn&#8217;t let that happen. Ok then, times up. My drinking <em>&#8216;career&#8217;</em> had to end!</p>
<p>Next day I woke up and immediately headed for the fridge. Yikes, no beer! My first thought was I better head on down to the Beach Market and pick up some beer because I&#8217;m out. Then it hit me, like a ton of bricks. <em>&#8220;Oh that&#8217;s right, I don&#8217;t drink any more. Oh No, what have I gotten myself into now? How am I gonna pull this off?&#8221;</em> No way I can do this, I don&#8217;t have the kind of willpower this is gonna take. All my friends are gonna think I&#8217;m a loser now for sure, in fact they won&#8217;t even want to hang out with me any more. I guess I can&#8217;t really blame them, who would want to hang out with someone that doesn&#8217;t drink? Jeez, my life will pretty much be over and done. Well, it would have surely been over had I continued drinking and I doubt I would have had too many friends if I was just diggin&#8217; through dumpsters and beggin&#8217; for change for my next beer. So somehow I just had to quit drinking. If I was ever gonna change my life, make something more out of it, then I had to start right now.</p>
<p>By that point I had been drinking just about every day since I was 18. That was 27 years of doing the same thing. Talk about a habit, it was second nature for me, a way of life. As I sat there thinking <em>[believe me, when you quit drinking there's plenty of time to do a whole bunch of thinking] </em> about all of the time, money, the life I wasted having <em>&#8216;fun&#8217;</em> it suddenly came crashing down on me like a ton of bricks. <em>&#8220;What the heck was I thinking? How could I have wasted my entire life like that?&#8221;</em> As a kid I was actually kinda smart but you sure wouldn&#8217;t know it based on this behavior. I just never really thought about all the time I actually wasted and once I added it all up, I was truly devastated. My first thought was forget this, I&#8217;ve already ruined my entire life by drinking it away, why stop now? Then I came to the conclusion that I wasn&#8217;t actually dead yet and so my life wasn&#8217;t <em>&#8216;officially&#8217; </em>over. I just had to try and make what was left of my life somewhat more productive and so I started on my journey to sobriety.</p>
<p>So here I sit, three years later. Kinda hard to believe it&#8217;s been three years, went by sorta fast. Has my life actually been any better since I quit drinking? Now I gotta be honest here, not really. Due to some other <em>&#8216;things&#8217;</em> that have happened since then, most of those not actually within my control, my life is definitely not a dream come true. In fact, very far from it. But I still have to believe it would have been much worse had I continued drinking and so in that respect it is better. Do I miss the beer? You better believe I do! That&#8217;s alot of days <em>[1095 days to be exact, not that I'm counting]</em> that I could have been getting hammered and having <em>&#8216;fun&#8217;</em>. But then again, I could have also gotten a DUI like my buddy just did this last New Years weekend and be sitting here worried about my revoked Drivers License and how I was going to pay all the fines. Besides, I really wouldn&#8217;t look good in an orange jumpsuit picking up old tires and trash along the freeway. It&#8217;s just not my style. Or even worse yet, injured someone else while driving drunk. So even though I haven&#8217;t really had anything good to speak of come from getting sober, I most likely prevented some bad things from happening and so I guess that could be considered a good thing.</p>
<p>The main reason I&#8217;m writing this <em>&#8216;novel&#8217;</em> is not so much to give myself props for three years of no beers, not at all. It&#8217;s more to inspire others to tackle those <em>&#8216;impossible&#8217;</em> things in their lives, those things they just truly believe they can&#8217;t accomplish. And also to let others know how deep the feelings of regret I have are and how heavily they weigh on my heart 24 hours a day. I should have done so much more with my life and it&#8217;s all the lost time and the opportunities that I can never get back that I regret the most.</p>
<p>So next time you&#8217;re kickin&#8217; back with a few brewskies at the Bar or with friends, pounding a few, just take a minute to ask yourself if there might be something else a bit more productive that you could be doing. Now, if you are the type of person that can have just one or two a couple times a week and that&#8217;s it, then great. No problem, enjoy yourself. I sure wish I could have done that but that just wasn&#8217;t me. As it turned out I did my fifty years worth of drinking in twenty seven years, I used up all my drinking <em>&#8216;chits&#8217;</em> a bit early. And please don&#8217;t think I&#8217;m here to preach to anyone about how to live their lives but if I can help just one person that reads this to avoid the regret that I feel, then my being completely embarassed by spilling my guts here will have totally been worth it.</p>
<p>No one can <em>&#8216;make&#8217; </em>anyone else quit, they have to have the desire to quit for themselves. In my opinion that&#8217;s why for the most part <em>&#8216;Intervention&#8217;</em> and <em>&#8216;Rehab&#8217; </em> rarely work, because people are in a <em>&#8216;forced&#8217;</em> situation brought on by others telling them they have to quit. Not from an <em>&#8216;inner&#8217; </em>realization that if they want to save their own life, they better quit. And for most alcoholics the life they are living, at least to them isn&#8217;t really worth saving. For the most part it&#8217;s a day to day existence, not really much of a <em>&#8216;life&#8217;</em> so to speak. But each individual has to hit their own <em>&#8216;bottom&#8217;</em> before they can go back up.</p>
<p>Myself, I was at a point that the only thing worse than today was knowing that I was still gonna wake up tomorrow and have to go through it all over again. I had considered suicide but it really wasn&#8217;t an option, I just plain didn&#8217;t have the guts to go through with it. I definitely wasn&#8217;t living much of a life at all, certainly not one worth saving. Yet I finally had to realize that the so called <em>&#8216;fun&#8217;</em> was over. Well, it was over for me anyway. I had no idea what the future would hold but good or bad, I knew that life for me would never be the same again. And so with that I guess I have to be grateful. Thankful for everything I do have instead of focused on all the regrets of everything I&#8217;ve lost. Life can get better, you just have to take the first step.</p>
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