There Really IS Something About ?*?*?
In the movie her name is Mary and DANG, I love that movie! I’ve watched it a thousand times and I’ll probably watch it a thousand more. It’s totally me in a nutshell. Not so much that I met someone a long time ago that I’m still pining over but the fact that I know what I’m looking for in a woman and I won’t stop until I find her.
Also the ending, which is the best part of the movie, hasn’t exactly happened for me yet either. In the end he gets the girl, I haven’t been so lucky. However I still have hope that it’s only a matter of time before my happy ending comes true. No, not THAT kind of happy ending.
I can so relate to how stuck he is on one woman. He knows what he likes, wants, needs and desires in a woman and that’s that. End of story. No one else will do. Unfortunately, I’m pretty much that same way. I have dated and been in enough relationships to know what I want. I can pretty much tell right off the bat if it’s got the potential to go anywhere or not and I don’t date randomly, just to date. Dating sucks and I still have a difficult time understanding how these Serial Daters can even handle it. It’s like going on endless job interviews. Who in their right mind would want to do that, let alone enjoy it. Talk about commitment issues, yikes!
I’m also just plain lousy at faking my emotions, if it’s not there it’s just not there and I don’t date just to feel wanted. I ONLY date a woman in hopes of building a friendship, a long term monogamous relationship that will last forever. All in hopes of finding my one true love, the love of my life.
Yes, looks are a part of it, who’s kiddin’ who here? There has to be a physical attraction of some sort but that’s why God made everyone ‘different’. Because everybody is looking for something different and if anyone says that looks don’t matter to some degree, I believe they aren’t being completely honest with themselves or with others for that matter.
But that’s such a small part in the overall scheme of things, it’s so much more than that. That’s why sites like Match and Eharmony can actually work. You get a glimpse of someone and that can be the initial spark that’s needed to get the ball rolling. Then, providing the profile is reasonably accurate, you can get somewhat of an idea of whether or not you have similar interests and have a desire to go any further.
That’s not to say that some people don’t embellish their profile a bit, pictures, age, etc. but even then it still helps to get a bit of background before proceeding. One thing I do find kinda odd is how many world travelers you’ll find on those sites. It seems like all of the women have been travelling longer than they have actually been alive but that’s another story.
Yes, you hear about all the guys that prey on the single mothers, hoping for an easy target. Tell the women what they want [need] to hear, get in and then get out just as quickly. Yes, there are plenty of guys like that. Some have even bragged to me of their conquests but to me that is such a low and shallow way of living.
That is so not me. I don’t mess around with peoples emotions, same as I hope they won’t mess with mine. Doesn’t always go that way of course but I’m all about KARMA and so I tell it like it is, right from the start and hope for the same in return. Karma is key. I don’t lead women on just to get close to them, just as I hope they won’t lead me on. I am honest to a fault which of course has caused me to get the lousy end of the deal my entire life, yet that’s just who I am and I can’t seem to change it.
So hopefully someday I will have the same luck as Ted. I really shouldn’t say luck. He FINALLY found a woman that got him, understood him and realized what a score he actually was. Hard as it may seem to believe I’ve had women say to me on occasion that they “can’t believe I’m single, I’m such a great catch.” Now, I would like to think so but whether or not that’s true I really can’t say. Even though I hate being single it still makes me feel good when a woman says that to me.
Don’t get me wrong, I am very sincere and so far from conceited it’s unreal (even though it may not sound like it here) but it’s true, I hear it a lot. It’s just the fact that I refuse to settle as well as I also haven’t found the one yet. The timing is ALWAYS wrong. Seems as if when I FINALLY find a woman that I think I could possibly build a future with, she just wants to date a bunch of guys (I won’t date a bunch of women at once) or she’s in a relationship already or she just got out of a relationship and the LAST thing she wants to do is get back into another relationship. I’m only interested in a relationship that has the possibility of goin’ the distance. Like they say, “Timing is everything” and the timing just never seems to be right for me.
Yes, I’m probably just too stupid to give up. Maybe I should but I’m just not a quitter. I just have to believe that someday the timing will be right. I have no right whatsoever to be picky and in my eyes I’m not. In fact, I don’t even like that phrase. In my mind I’m not really being picky as much as I just know early on if it even has the possibility of becoming a long term relationship or not and if not, I just won’t get involved. I have a very good idea of what I want in my future partner and I won’t settle until I find a woman that has some of those things. Someone that shares my core values and beliefs.
So I guess if picky is the opposite of desperate then yes, that’s me. I don’t think that I’m tryin’ to find a woman that’s out of my league, although that has often been the case.
I don’t want the super glam, gold digger, trophy chick. I want a real woman that I can actually do things with. Sure, sex is a big part of a relationship but you still have to communicate and get along in all other aspects. I want to find my best friend and build a relationship from there.
I guess that’s why I enjoy this movie so much. It still gives idiots like me at least one ounce of hope that maybe, just maybe I’ll find a real woman that gets me, appreciates me for me and wants to build a friendship with me that will last a lifetime.
Yes, I guess I’m a hopeless romantic. Old Fashioned sounds kinda lame, I’d prefer to think of myself as Old School. So I will continue to trudge ahead on this extremely bumpy road until the timing is FINALLY right. Because There Really IS Something About ?*?*?
If you can relate to searching for the one, I’d enjoy hearing about it in the Comment box below and if you know of anyone who might enjoy this post I’d appreciate it if you’d share it with them. Thank you.
I love this blog. I don’t think you should ever “settle”, because it won’t make you happy at all. I know that just like this blog, all your efforts will be rewarded. Only a coward settles down with the wrong person. It takes courage to hold out and wait for what you want and believe in. Whatever you want, be it a woman, money, career, it’s out there. You just have to be strong enough to push through the let downs. You are such an inspiration. I don’t know anyone with as much drive as you. I really admire you. And I know you will find her. *smiles*
Ashanty, I can’t thank you enough for your more than kind words. I honestly try my best to remain focused on my future and continue to keep thinking positively. As bad as things continue to be, I just have to believe that they are going to get better in the future. And even as much as that old adage “Everything happens for a reason” stings every time I hear it, I still have to believe that it’s true and that there will be a much more enjoyable future ahead for me. So again, thank you so much for taking both the time to read my post and to leave your words of encouragement.